I WANT THAT

I want that and I want us to want that and I want to be the one to bring it. But, how would that be possible when everyone's expectations of what they can achieve have become so limited and so rigid that instead of taking your breath away it just brings a sigh - What has happened? Everyone wants to have THAT event that everyone will be talking about for years to come. I don't know of anyone who begins by saying, yes, I am just going to have a plain, mediocre event with no excitement and one that everyone forgets about by tomorrow.

Do we not have access to those who think outside the box and want to really break out and bring you events that will leave others speechless - of course. The real trick is to recognize who they are and what they can bring to the table. However, that kind of vendor is not found in a bargain basement. When you watch a David Tutera wedding program, or one of the other wedding programs, or begin to lose yourself in visiting one website after another from other parts of this country and the world, all we think about is - WOW, that is what I want. I want that kind of beauty and you can already picture Jeff Leatham doing florals. You know what, the sad truth is that everyone is truly deserving of that kind of event. However, when it comes to the bottom line, an event is a bottom feeder - we have devalued the most celebrated moments and events of our to the lowest priority. Why should we save up and spend that much money on an event - I'll tell you why - because it feeds the soul. Have you never walked into a florist shop filled with beautiful flowers everywhere and just lost yourself in the color and the fragrance (although granted, some flowers have no fragrances any longer). How about finding a website or a show where a photographer has pictures on display that are so amazing that they literally speak their story to you and you are lost in the picture. The same can be said for any event where truly creative and talented people are involved in the conception, planning and implementation process. You will remember being at that event and those who did not go, will always regret it. It begins with the invitation and your anticipation is so heightened you can hardly wait for the event. You think about your choice of dress and accessories, hair and makeup. That is the beginning of the seduction and with each detail you encounter, it just pulls you in more and more until you suddenly realize about halfway through the night that this is truly an unforgettable event and how much you have actually seen and how much detail is there. It all is a part of the larger picture. Each vendor is doing what they do best - and if you have great planning and seek out those whose creativity, talent and personality are on board with you for your event, you have succeeded in creating the most Extraordinary Affair that will be on everyone's post tomorrow.

So, the next time you are thinking abour an event or milestone that you would like to celebrate, do take the time to explore ALL your possible paths to creating that event. I want that - Of course we all want THAT, but how much do we want it and who would we trust to bring it? DIY does not necessarily mean that you have only limited choices - a mason jar filled with flowers from the garden, tied with raffia on a checkered tablecloth, or that Uncle Fred's friend has a cousin who takes picures, or that dress on line that is on sale for $200.00. DIY can mean afforable if you do it with the right team. Sometimes the money you spend can bring savings in the long run. Professional vendors do what they do and do it as well as they do it because they love what they do and they love to make your inspiration their aspiration. So, the next time you say I WANT THAT - tell youself that you can have that and that you deserve it.